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As a PK (Preacher's Kid), I should probably be so traumatized that I shouldn't have it in me to do this, but I'm going to go ahead and write some positives that the Black church has done for the community.
I guess most people figure as a preacher's kid, I should probably be off shooting icing from a bathing suit top in a video like Katy Perry, but eh, we're all different.
An examination of any congregation of the average Black church shows that single Black females fill the pews. Two other important statistics gleaned from this survey: (1) 80% of Black Americans report that religion is “very important” in their lives as compared to 57% of the general U. population; and (2) 55% of Black Americans report that they “interpret scripture literally” as compared to 32% of the general U. Nearly one-in-five men say they have no formal religious affiliation, compared with roughly 13% of women.” The survey shows a distinct correlation between religion and social attitudes amongst African Americans.
Results of a recent study “African Americans and Religion” by the PEW Research Center’s Forum on Religion and Public Life found that “African Americans are markedly more religious on a variety of measures than the U. population as a whole.” Almost 90% of Black Americans express “absolutely certain belief in God” compared to just over 70% of the total U. “African Americans who are more religiously observant (as defined by frequency of worship service attendance and the importance of religion in their lives), are more likely to oppose abortion and homosexuality, and more likely to report higher levels of conservative ideology.” Going to church makes you a sheep, blindly following the mandates of a small group of men you have placed in your life in a position of power.
It is my belief that the Black church, structured around traditional gender roles which makes women submissive to and inferior to men, greatly limits females.
Single Black women sitting in church every Sunday are being subtly brainwashed, soothed and placated into waiting without demand for what they want to magically come to them. The male standing at the front of the Church in the role of spiritual leader, that’s who!
It's her attitude, her hair, her weight, the deviance or mis-education of the Black man, gays, jail, money, White women, Latinas and now her church.
So if this author thinks the Black church is to blame and the Good Book ain't so great, where should single women turn? In fact, most of my married friends didn't meet their spouses in the Lord's house, either.
But going to worship isn't supposed to be a Singles mixer.
We're there to sing praises, learn to be better brothers and sisters (and that goes for the Sistas, too) in Christ, to grow closer to our Lord and each other.
Going to church makes you malleable and predictable, and narrows your thinking and thus limits your options.
Going to church for single Black women is a waste of time."Waste of time? Well, I guess if women are only going to church to "get them a husband," uh, yeah, they are going to be sorely disappointed.