Single life vs dating
Once upon a time in America, marriage was the norm for adults.But now, for the first time since the Bureau of Labor Statistics began tracking these numbers in 1976, there are more single Americans than people who are married. About 50.2 percent — or 124.6 million American adults — are single. Singles have taken over — despite the rise of online dating.Every single cliché you see in goofy romantic movies. I have 'friends' who cheat on their wives with one night stands and I honestly don't know how they can look their wives in their eyes."- futuretinman "Do not keep score.Now it's getting hard to break up that dynamic without looking like the bad guy."- slapuwithafish "Do what you want when you are young [but] when you find the woman you want to marry, take it seriously. If you love your partner let the petty stuff go, it's not about how many more times you've done the dishes.With that in mind wouldn't some valuable advice from those who have been there and done that already be useful?If someone older and wiser than you offered nuggets of wisdom on being yourself, keeping your career and knowing if someone is the one wouldn't you grasp them with all the strength in your body?“They have a chance for solitude, and kind of a productive solitude.
They’re really a crucial part of modern social life.” Marriage can also be an expensive institution, but Klinenberg says the trend towards single life predates the Great Recession."If you think you've found 'the one', ask yourself if that person would stick with you through thick and thin. If you're even a bit unsure, he/she may not be 'the one'."I have a friend who lost his job and pretended to go to work for a week for fear of [what] his wife would think/do. If that were to happen to me, my wife would be the first person I'd want to tell and run home to. It's easy to fall into a comfortable rut, but it doesn't help anyone."- Sully1102"Listen to understand rather than listen to respond.Marry person."- tapehead4"Don't let your partner stop you from progressing on your professional life. That creates scars that later on will affect the relationship." - axisdelasal"Never stop dating your spouse. Just like you don't magically get 'in shape' one day and stop hitting the gym, you don't have a guaranteed relationship. I think this goes for any relationship advice, but it's super easy to listen to your wife and try to figure out how to respond; solve a problem, critique her issues, etc."Sometimes the wife just wants to rant and if you're busy figuring out how to respond, you're not listening."- Sewtwo2 "If you can't be yourself around someone, they aren't right for you.“I do think there’s a little bit of that paradox-of-choice problem,” he says.“You have so many different options that it’s easy to find the flaws with each one and difficult to just pick some person with all their flaws — since we all do have them — and just stay with it.” In addition to having a plethora of options, the era of the extended American adolescence seems to have tempered the rush to marriage.“It’s actually probably easier to meet people now than ever before, if you think about all of the incredible technologies we have to connect,” says Eric Klinenberg, a sociology professor at New York University and the author of Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone.“But one big issue is people today are really looking for their soul mate," he says, "and they’re not going to compromise.” In addition to holding out for a soul mate, Klinenberg says many people aren’t settling down with someone because of society’s changing culture.If you're still young and find yourself in a good relationship, don't mess it up for the sake of 'playing the field'."- fireman4884 "Realise that your S. [significant other] communicates differently than you. You can avoid a lot of anger and arguments by knowing the difference between frustration vs.confrontational intention."- ussrael "If you want to be truly happy in a relationship be completely honest from the beginning.It's a social change that was ignored for years, he argues.“Up until the 1950s, you can’t find a single society in the history of our species that sustained a large number of people living alone for long periods of time,” he says.