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The other day I had a great Twitter conversation with dating writer Kelly Seal about her fantastic article, “What Are Your Dating Deal-Breakers?” Kelly was writing mainly for women but her points hold for everyone.More serious deal-breakers are often reflections or indications of a person’s character and how they are likely to treat you.If a person is violent or dishonest, those are signs about who that person is, not harmless eccentricities that simply annoy us.
Can you really not imagine that is good enough in every other way so as to override that sticking point? It’s not based on any moral judgment—I just cannot stand the smell, having lived with it for years while I was young, and then being free of it for a long time since.She said she would not date anyone who wore white underwear because that is too boring.Another gal told me I didn't make enough money "to support her" even though I was making almost 3 times what she made on disability.Personality traits reveal themselves in different ways as well: The sad part is that many people too often accept abuse from some partners—in part because it reveals itself slowly over time—and reject others based on mere quirks that are obvious from the start.We end up rejecting people for the wrong reasons and staying with others for even worse ones.The idea always think of those classic episodes of in which Jerry’s friends mock him for breaking up with many interesting, smart, and beautiful women because of some minor flaw—but in real life, not all deal-breakers are so minor.Generally I think deal-breakers are a bad idea: They elevate one characteristic over all the others that may weigh in a person's favor.If you’re a recovering alcoholic, you may not want to date people who drink—not because it says anything negative about that other person, but because endangers your own sobriety.You might lose out on dating a basically great person that just happens to shout a lot or drink, but you would be anxious with them until you knew that a relationship would not lead to abuse or a relapse.Deal-breakers block us from considering or even seeing anything else that might be good about a person.Can you honestly say that a pet peeve is important enough that you would pass up an otherwise fantastic person because of it? Then imagine that person being even better—is that one characteristic We can draw a parallel with ethics.